How You Handle Loss Says Everything About You As A Person!

Loss on any level can be devastating and traumatic. The loss of a loved one, loss of a marriage or relationship; the loss of a job, loss of good health, loss of finances and even the loss of a presidential election can create an onset of emotions that may ultimately result in the loss of those close to you; some who may be family or your dearest friends. Last week the American people participated in our most sacred Democratic process, the right to vote. Millions of ballots were cast for a preferred candidate that resulted in a win or a loss. However, a huge loss has been the failure of a peaceful transition in which a divided country continues to witness. This prolonging of transition only hinders the healing process of a brutal campaign season for all invested and involved. I can’t help to think about my kids who are heavily involved in sports and what I have told them, as well as their coaches about the importance of good sportsmanship. We tell our kids to shake their opponents hand and say good job regardless if they win or lose. It’s a sad thing when adults fail to do the things we tell our kids. It’s also a sad thing when a candidate forgets their sole duty is supposed to be about all of the people they are privileged to serve. The job will always be bigger than the man or woman who holds the position because God is in control. And God for whatever reason His plan allows one the blessed privilege to lead, they should remember to lead by The Lord’s example to Unite; well that is what one can only hope. 

As a believer the greatest loss of all is watching Christians or those who profess to be Christians say negative things, post divisive comments on social media that fail to represent the spirit of Christ. It’s a sad day when one focuses on man, their ego and their anger over God. It’s also a sad day when people go mad because things don’t go their way. There is a scripture that reminds us of the love of God in (1 John‬ ‭4:16, 20-21‬.)…”And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen. And He has given us this command: Anyone who loves God must also love their brother and sister.” 

Unfortunately, some of our life events and especially this election will bring out surprising and disheartening behaviors from those we live next door to, those we share communities with, attend church and go to work with. These outlandish behaviors have proven that loving our brothers and sisters is the furthest thing from one’s mind and that is a great loss. There are peaceful ways to debate, disagree and love one another at the same time. The word says that anyone who claims to love God and hates their brother is a liar. There is no in between when it comes to God, you either love Him and those He love or you don’t! Those who understand the referenced scripture will do as it says and love God, as well as their brothers & sisters. They don’t entertain confusion, chaos or division because if they do, they lose and how they handle loss says everything about them as a person. Whenever someone fails to love their brother/sister they lose kindness, truth, respect and peace. It’s true that our LifeLoveMarriageDivorce journey may include some losses along the way but how you handle the loss, treat others and love God will always show the winner in you. Therefore, chose God over man. Chose faith over fear. Chose love over hate! Chose what’s best for democracy over self because when you do…you never lose! 

Until The Next Blog,

Blessings & Love!