Have you ever been told that you weren’t good enough for a job that you knew you were qualified for or have you ever been told by a teacher/counselor that you weren’t college material or good enough to attend college? Has a coach ever told you that you weren’t good enough to be on their team? Did a past or current partner tell you that you are no longer good enough to be in their life? I’m sure many of you may be nodding your head to one or more of these experiences. However, Life has taught me that a person’s rejection or lack of belief in you is usually a blessing in disguise because it frees you from being around or with someone who doesn’t appreciate your heart and attributes you bring to the table. It is definitely difficult when a person or a job you’ve invested your effort and time in doesn’t see your gifts, but what I know to be true is that you would rather know the true authentic self of an individual in order to release yourself from the “image” they portray and more importantly the lies they speak. A person’s word is all they have and when they fail to communicate their truth, they waste your time, energy and commitment to the word you uphold.

There is a quote by Maya Angelou which says…”When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” It’s true that we are all works in progress and we deserve some grace & mercy but if the same behavior continues to appear that you were shown the first time believe the intuition that is warning you to beware. The boss who says you will be up for the next promotion but when the time comes, you are told that your work performance wasn’t good enough and you’re passed by once again as your boss continues taking credit for your contribution. The partner who apologizes for the same poor behavior, promising never to hurt you but does it again & again is only giving you lip service to temporarily appease. At some point you must believe in yourself and your God given gifts & abilities. Release yourself from the words of the counselor or coach who didn’t see your true talents and/or failed to help you improve to develop those gifts. Don’t put your faith in the words of men because their flaws, shortcomings, failures, ego, pride and childhood upbringings could be related to the things they were told impossible to achieve in their life. It’s hard for people to see the good in you when they can’t see it in themselves. Therefore, show them grace as you exit stage left and know their issues are not yours to carry; most importantly they don’t hold your destiny in their hands. God is the only one who knows the plans for your life as Jeremiah 29:11 reminds us …”For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Never forget that you are created in God’s perfect image, which means you’re more than good enough. Don’t allow anyone to tell you something less than who you are! You are good enough, period!