How many times have you experienced a broken heart or felt under appreciated because you practice the golden rule of treating others the way you want to be treated but find yourself on the short end of the stick? If you are in a committed relationship, you will occasionally disagree but a balanced relationship’s goal is to effectively articulate whatever the conflict may be and implement a plan to fix it. However, many relationships become unbalanced as one partner constantly make withdrawals from the relationship which only benefits their needs. This type of behavior will only create tension in the relationship. The faithfully, optimistic partner may remain in the relationship for the kids, loyalty and love but just as all good things come to an end…good people eventually get tired of being taken advantage of. Sometimes the people we meet come in a disguise, they say and do all of the right things but eventually the true authentic self can no longer suppress itself and behaviors that are foreign to you are natural for them begin to appear. It’s said that hindsight is 20-20, so take a moment to recall conversations that you had with your partner about why their previous relationships failed, maybe it was due to their infidelity, priority issues, poor communication, ego, control or immaturity… you may have hoped those behaviors would not be repeated but soon realize the withdrawals of past begin to occur in your relationship.
Each one of us can relate to a relationship that didn’t work out but that relationship was supposed to result in growth and change, not a continuation of hurtful withdrawal behaviors. Question…How many times has your partner ignored you when he/she walks through the door or fail to make a connection with you? You tell yourself…”maybe she/he is having a bad day.” These things could possibly be true but if you are constantly rationalizing their bad behavior, as well as the only one initiating or trying to fix things, you’ll soon realize that no matter how many times you try to communicate or compromise yourself to bring balance in the relationship, at some point the withdrawals will outnumber the deposits and cause the relationship to become insufficient. There is a quote by Pavana that says…”Your soul is attracted to people the same way flowers are attracted to the sun, surround yourself only with those who want to see you grow. If you are depositing positivity, kindness, love, and light into someone, they should be doing the same for you. You are worth all good and perfect things from above; so make sure that goodness is being reciprocated and deposited to you. 2020 has shown us that life is too short and time is too precious & valuable to waste. Therefore, release relationships, be it personal or professional that only make withdrawals and allow your soul to be surrounded with those who appreciate, love and want to see you grow.
Until The Next Blog,
Blessings & Love